How to Be A Present Partner While Scaling a Business
The Truth About Growing A Company Without Sidelining Your Relationship
As founders, we sometimes form an identity inside of our business(es).
Because of this, when we do something that’s unrelated to the business, it can feel unproductive.
It can feel like a waste of time.
It somewhat explains why we feel guilty for relaxing sometimes.
It’s a contradiction to the identity we’ve built.
Part of the reason why you may find it difficult to be mentally present with her while physically present, is because your subconscious views it as an unproductive activity.
So it encourages the conscious part of your brain to be productive mentally, if it’s impossible to do it physically.
This is why when she talks about how the blue the sky was yesterday, all you can think about is why ad script didn’t convert like you thought it would.
On a logical level, your ad not converting is definitely more important than a blue sky.
Talking about the sky, something we cannot change or influence, feels like a waste of time to you.
Especially when you’re a man that puts your time to good use.
But this is when we need to turn off Mr Logic, and turn on Mr Empathetic.
The things that your woman may talk about and care about will likely be trivial in comparison to what you deal with on a day to day basis.
She isn’t asking you to be invested in the sky, she just wants to feel a connection and feel your undivided attention.
You say there’s a bond between you both, she wants to feel it.
She just wants to feel something.
Sometimes your woman will even start an argument with you because that is the only time she feels like you’re completely focused on her.
Learning to be more present with your woman is a matter of changing between states.
Business often requires you to be in a state of high alert, logic, uninterrupted focus & level of genius.
Your relationship often requires you to be in a state of empathy, patience, flexibility, accountability & intentionality.
Your ability to transition between these states, and maintain the state once in it, will determine how present you will be when you’re with her.
Our businesses create a level of anxiety within us, we’re on edge a lot.
This anxiety is what keeps you thinking whether tomorrow’s sales call is going to close, while you & your woman are cuddling watching a Simpsons episode.
Presence in a relationship is boiled down to 3 things.
The mind (cognitive presence): Your brain is an optimisation engine that hates "empty" cycles. To stop it from drifting to ad scripts, perform a Mental Data Dump before walking through the door or seeing her. Write down your stressors. Tell your subconscious: The archive is secure. Stand down.
The body (physical presence): It isn’t enough to be in the room; you must be of the room. The "Founder State" is tense—shoulders up, phone in hand. Presence requires a State Shift. Leave the phone in another room. Use physical touch to anchor yourself in the sensory world, not the digital one.
The heart (emotional presence): This is where Mr. Empathetic takes the lead. While Mr. Logic wants to "solve" the boring story about the sky, the heart understands that the story isn't the point—the connection is.
The Bottom Line
Intimacy is a high-ROI activity. A connected home life provides the emotional floor that allows you to take massive risks in business. When you are present with her, you aren’t being “unproductive”—you are refueling the engine.
Don’t just build a business that lasts. Build a relationship worth coming home to.
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